According to this editorial in today's USAToday, up to 60% of married women have an affair and up to 70% of married men. If these numbers are true, they are startling on two fronts:
1. Most married people have an affair. We live in a sexually saturated culture in which sexual immorality seems less and less gross and more and more acceptable, if not advisable. It could happen to any of us. Let’s be VERY careful with ourselves—be very clear in your mind what your boundaries are for interaction with members of the opposite sex: physical contact, personal correspondence, being alone with non-family members, etc. Err on the side of caution. One failure in this arena can derail your ministry and influence for Christ. 1000 moments of awkward physical interaction with a member of the opposite sex beats 1 interaction that causes a spark.
2. The gap has almost closed b/w men and women. Even ten years ago the gap b/w the % of wives and % of husbands who cheat was wider. The myth that men are more likely to cheat or are more prone to cheat is simply not true. We are so sexually saturated that women now are as sexually aggressive, open, and inclined as men are. Women in the Christian community may object, but the numbers are in. This should sound a note of caution to women: you are as likely to cheat as your husband. Women need to take as much precaution as men do in this arena—if not more. The tendency to hug everyone, physically touch everyone while talking to them, etc, needs to be considered. Women need to be very clear in their minds what their boundaries are for interaction with members of the opposite sex—for their own sake—so that they do not fall into temptation.
Walk in Christ, don’t light your sexual fire when you are single, make sure you have a healthy sex life when married—one that is meeting both partners’ needs, and you’ll be fine.
Glory to God.
1. Most married people have an affair. We live in a sexually saturated culture in which sexual immorality seems less and less gross and more and more acceptable, if not advisable. It could happen to any of us. Let’s be VERY careful with ourselves—be very clear in your mind what your boundaries are for interaction with members of the opposite sex: physical contact, personal correspondence, being alone with non-family members, etc. Err on the side of caution. One failure in this arena can derail your ministry and influence for Christ. 1000 moments of awkward physical interaction with a member of the opposite sex beats 1 interaction that causes a spark.
2. The gap has almost closed b/w men and women. Even ten years ago the gap b/w the % of wives and % of husbands who cheat was wider. The myth that men are more likely to cheat or are more prone to cheat is simply not true. We are so sexually saturated that women now are as sexually aggressive, open, and inclined as men are. Women in the Christian community may object, but the numbers are in. This should sound a note of caution to women: you are as likely to cheat as your husband. Women need to take as much precaution as men do in this arena—if not more. The tendency to hug everyone, physically touch everyone while talking to them, etc, needs to be considered. Women need to be very clear in their minds what their boundaries are for interaction with members of the opposite sex—for their own sake—so that they do not fall into temptation.
Walk in Christ, don’t light your sexual fire when you are single, make sure you have a healthy sex life when married—one that is meeting both partners’ needs, and you’ll be fine.
Glory to God.
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